Spread your wings and fly away

I am cold

I am freezing.

My feet have lost all sense of feeling in them as they are like ice of blocks.

Even with the added cardigan over my jumper I am shivering.

Oh well the heating had to go on sometime, wasn't planning on yet though!

The child was having a big tantrum in the middle of the shop.

The father, was trying to reason with the child, obviously embarrased that the child was still screaming and pulling things off the shelves. The father, pulled the child by his hand and told him not to do that, that he was being a bad boy and he would have to walk with him holding his hand. He never raised his voice. He wasn't angry. He was just stern.

The child bit his dad's hand.

The father, bent to the child's level, held the child on both arms and said to him, "You will never do that again. That is naughty. Never, ever bite people. Do it again and I will show you how much it hurts, do you understand!"

The child nodded then started to scream again as the father stood up.

"you're hurting me"

"No I am not I am holding your hand. You will not touch things"

A lady approached him and told him she was going to report him for abusing his child.

"I beg your pardon?" the father says to her "What the hell are you talking about?"

"You're hurting him and you threatened to bite him" she says.

"would you rather he stood here pulling things of the shelves and biting people then?" says the dad "anyway I never mentioned that I was going to bite him"

"you implied it" she says, "that is evidence enough"

Now I am not going into details of what he said next apart from the fact words were exchanged, some not so pleasant and all the time the child kept on screaming in the shop and pulling at his dad, refusing to stand and having a right old tantrum.

In truth I thought the father dealt with it well, afterall we have all been there with our children at some point and been driven to distraction but the tantrums ( though when I threw one in a shop in the style of the woman on the adverts that seemed to cure them of that). He never smacked the child. He didn't bite the child. He told the child firmly what would happen and how disappointed he was in him in the style of supernanny! He was firm yes and who was to suggest that he was going to bite his child when he got home, the threat may have meant something else.

And now my head is going into overdrive as to what that could be and it isn't pleasant, though I may be misjudging the situation, afterall it could be something quite innocent who knows?

At no time though did he get angry even when there was a heated discussion, he never raised his voice, he remained calmed even when she was hurling abusive language at him, he just told her that it wasn't necessary for her to swear in front of his child and told her several times to mind her own business.

He walked away, eventually, dragging the child behind him who was still screaming and having a tantrum,telling the child that there were not going to be any treats today because of his behaviour. She went off to find security (who seemed to have made themselves scarce) and to report the abuse of a minor.

I am really glad I didn't take my own child into town today as we often argue, dread to think what I would have been accused of